3 Truths for Moms and Businesswomen
Today I want to veer off the business track just a bit and bring some advice to the moms out there who are building businesses and raising babies. I want to give all of you moms out there a little hug and a pat on the back and tell you that you can do this! To do this, I want to share 3 truths for moms and businesswomen that all of us can learn from.
I’m a mom to 5 kids. My oldest is almost 14 and my youngest is 4. We are distance learning here in California which has been a new development for all of us. Even though 2020 has been one full of my kids being around all the time, my business has grown more in this year than ever before. I know I’m not in the early parenting years anymore, but I remember them well. You see, I started my first business before my oldest was born. So I know the struggles of building a business with babies, and toddlers, and now I’ve got older kids and teens. Crazy how fast time flies!
Who am I to not be here?
A few weeks ago I got to speak at the Choice Publicity Summit in Tennessee. It was such a privilege to be there. As I was waiting for my turn to speak, I was watching all of these amazing women get up on the stage and share their advice. I just looked around and thought, “Oh my goodness, my Heavenly Father has put me at this table, with these amazing women.” I thought about that concept and then in the next breath, my Heavenly Father spoke in my mind and said, “No, Michelle, you’re not at the table, you’re on this stage.”
I’ve been thinking about that situation ever since. I had to debate whether or not I should go to that conference. You see, I have all my kids at home all day, we are in the middle of this pandemic, and life is nuts. I had to have multiple people take over my ‘job’ of taking care of my kids for a few days. There were a lot of moving parts to make this work. I had to ask myself, “Is this worth it?” It’s a big thing. And then I got to the conference, and there were these big time women doing big time things. I had to remind myself a few times that I’m doing big time things, as well!
But I was so excited to go and be there with these amazing women. I had a similar experience over a year ago when I was asked to go to another conference and speak to a large group of amazing women. I asked myself then, “Who am I to do this?”. And the thought came to me, “Who am I not to do this?”
To be a successful mom and businesswoman I need to know who I am
I know that you are probably wondering what in the world you are doing here in this business. You feel really called to do this business but you also feel called for motherhood. Me too. Motherhood is one of my most important roles. But the truth is that I am a person first. Before I am a mom, a wife, a business owner, I am a person. I am a daughter of God.
All of these other things I do make me better, they change me and shape me, but I need to know at my core who I am. Only then, will these other roles help me become who I can become. Whether that’s in my role as a mom or a business owner or a professional kettle corn maker, I need to know at my core that first and foremost, I am a daughter of God. This isn’t one of my 3 truths for moms and businesswomen, but it’s so important to me to remember this fact. I am a daughter of God who loves me and wants the best for me.
Building a business makes you a better person
One of my driving factors has always been that I need to know that what I am doing is what God needs me to do right now. Sometimes that has been super easy, but most of the time it’s like walking through mud and trying to see through the trees. It can be hard when you can’t see the path in front of you and you are walking by faith. But, through it all I have come to know God more, I have become a better mom, I am able to serve more people than I ever thought possible. And I’ve learned things that are highly valuable for growing a business and for becoming a better person.
I would not exchange the things I’ve learned through my businesses, or the relationship I’ve gained with God through growing my business. Business makes you a better person because it makes you confront yourself and your insecurities and you have to really dive deep into why you are scared of selling and putting yourself out there. It’s the best thing out there.
Can you be a good businesswoman and a good mom at the same time?
But, can you be a good business owner and a good mom at the same time? I want you to think about that. It might be easy to look at someone else and say, “they’re a great mom and they’re doing everything they need to do. But I put my kids in front of a show for 30 minutes so I could record a podcast, so I’m not a great mom.” Do you do that? Maybe sometimes? We all do. We feel really guilty that we take any time away from being a mom. But you were not made to follow your kids around 24/7. That’s just not true. It’s not how our moms did it or our ancestors. They weren’t there for every second of their kids’ lives.
I want your relationships with your kids to be deep. I want you to know that it’s ok that you’re doing something besides motherhood. My mom did so many things outside of being a mom. She was a nurse, a seamstress, and many other things. Those things enhanced her motherhood. They didn’t take away from it.
Be prayerful about your time in your business
I urge you to be very prayerful about your time in your business. To do this, I want you to get on your knees and ask God/Heavenly Father/the Universe, whatever you call it. I want you to ask, “Am I supposed to be here in my business?” and wait. And think about it and meditate on it. I want you to get a clear answer if this is where you are supposed to be.
If you are supposed to run a business and you know that deep in your heart. Then we can move on. Then we can say, “All right show me how. How do you want me to run a business? At nighttime when my kids are asleep? Do you want me to do it during nap time? How can I make that time effective? Do I need to get a babysitter to come for a few hours a few times a week? Great. Help me to be ok with that.”
There are so many ways to run a business. I can give you a lot of options. But only you can receive revelation for your motherhood. When you know what you’re supposed to do, I don’t want you to look back. I want you to keep moving forward and know that you are doing what is best for you. You’ve weighed out all the possibilities and options and you’ve decided what is best for you. Now it’s time to move forward. To help you, I’m sharing my 3 truths for moms and businesswomen.
My 3 truths for moms and businesswomen
1- Your business journey is just that–a journey
My first of these three truths for moms and businesswomen is this. Remember it’s a journey. My business looks very different than it did 14 years ago. When I first started and I was on Etsy I had a little baby. A lot of that business was very different from what I’m doing now. My goals were to just make some extra money while my husband was in medical school Whether that was Christmas gifts or date nights, I just wanted some extra money. Looking back, I wish I had aimed a little higher, but that’s ok. Things were different online 14 years ago. I worked that business at night after my babies were in bed. Because that’s when I had more time.
As my kids grew, I started working my business at different times of the day. My business changed as my motherhood changed. Your business will look how it does now, but as your motherhood changes, your business will change with it. I want you to get used to thinking of your business as a journey. The path will be rocky at times, or it may be smooth sailing for a bit. Just be prepared for your business to change as your motherhood changes. This is normal, and totally ok!
2-Where you are, right now, is exactly where you are supposed to be
We worry a lot about not being more ahead or falling behind. But you know that you’ve tried your best. You have started when you felt like you should start and you have been learning and growing and you are exactly where you’re supposed to be. The cool thing about this as I’ve looked back on my business journey, is that God was using me, teaching me, and giving me experiences that I’ve needed right now. He can see the whole journey. Which leads me to my last point.
3- The reason we can trust God is that He sees the whole picture of where we are going and what skills we need to get there
That’s why we can be at peace about this. We don’t have to know everything and we don’t have to know how it fits. My mom always tells me, “God will use any talent that you have”. I’d like to add that God can’t use a talent that you don’t cultivate.
If you’re a photographer, and you get better and better, then God can use that to help other people .Whether that’s through a business or through teaching other people, whatever it is He can use your talents and gifts. But if you don’t spend time and if you don’t allow yourself to spend time cultivating those things, he can’t use them, right? Because your gifts aren’t there if you don’t make them better.
You’re not alone in building a business and you don’t have to be.
Just know that you aren’t alone in this motherhood game. You can do this motherhood and business thing if you are supposed to and if you make that decision You don’t have to be alone in it. God can help you. He can guide you. if you let him into your business and motherhood, and ask him where you’re supposed to be. Ask him to feel confidence. My prayers everyday always include two things. Where am I supposed to serve? And what is most important for me to do that day?
With 5 kids I could spend a lot of time trying to figure out who needs me and where to spend my time. But when I pray about it, I get the specific promptings and answers for who needs me the most and how I can help them. Make God a part of your motherhood and your business. He will help you and lead you. Remember, you’re not alone. Your journey is just that, a journey. Things will change. You are where you need to be right now. I hope these 3 truths for moms and businesswomen help you in your journey.
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